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Domestic violence

On this page you can find out about reporting domestic violence and where to get help in Newham if you are suffering abuse.
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Get help and advice

Free and confidential support available for domestic or sexual violence.

Newham Community Based Domestic and Sexual Violence

Call us on 08081961482. The line is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
Other services available to victims aged 16 and over include:
  • counselling
  • one to one casework and advocacy for victims of domestic violence.

More support

You can also get confidential advice and support from:

If you don’t want others to know that you are reading this online

If you are getting advice online, you may want to make sure that no-one can find out what websites you have visited.
If you are worried that someone is monitoring your internet usage, your safest choice is to use the internet from another place such as a friend’s house, your work, an internet café or local library.

Keeping your email private

If an abuser sends you threatening or harassing email messages, you should print them off and save them as evidence of abusive behaviour.

What is domestic violence?

Domestic violence is any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality.

It can happen to someone in a same sex relationship and a transgender person can experience domestic violence from a partner or family member.

This can cover, but is not limited to:
  • psychological abuse
  • physical abuse
  • sexual abuse
  • financial abuse
  • emotional abuse

Controlling behaviour

Controlling behaviour is a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.

Coercive behaviour

Coercive behaviour is: an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.
This definition, which is the police definition, includes so-called honour-based violence, female genital mutilation (FGM) and forced marriage, and is clear that victims are not confined to one gender or ethnic group.
We also recognise that domestic violence affects all ages and includes dating violence and violence against older people and carers.

How to judge if you are suffering domestic violence

If you are being abused, you may not recognise what is happening to you as abuse.
Just because it doesn't show, doesn't mean it doesn't matter. You must never ignore it, as domestic violence usually gets worse over time.
Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, psychological and emotional abuse. Abusers can use tactics such as:
  • hitting, beating, choking, pushing, slapping, kicking, pulling hair, biting, punching, backhanding, strangling, arm twisting, shoving, kicking or burning
  • locking you out of your home or in your home
  • forcing you to use substances such as alcohol and/or drugs
  • making humiliating remarks about your body or appearance
  • constantly criticising or humiliating you
  • forcing you to have sex or perform sexual acts
  • obsessive jealousy and accusing you of being unfaithful
  • telling you that nothing you do will ever be good enough
  • blaming your friends or family for the problems in your relationship
  • monitoring your phone calls, post, emails or online activity
  • demanding that you tell them everything you have done each day
  • demanding that you tell them how you have spent your money.

Referring clients who are experiencing domestic violence

If you are professional looking to refer a client for support for domestic violence:

Newham Community Based Domestic and Sexual Violence services (Word)  Multi-Agency Risk Assessment Conference referral form (Word)

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